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Books 20 - 24
[info]neversremedy wrote in [info]50bookchallenge
May went by too fast, but I read one really incredible novel that knocked me on my feet, put my Russian and Ukrainian music on, and got me back to writing, despite our family tragedy, and my previous sluggishness about both reading and writing.

20. Deathless by Catherynne M. Valente [dark fantasy, mythic]
21. Black Butler, Vol. 1 by Yana Toboso [manga, shoujo]
22. Fables, Vol. 16 by Bill Willingham [graphic novel, adult fairy tale]
23. Maiden Rose, Vol. 1 by Inariya Fusanosuke [manga, yaoi]
24. Maiden Rose, Vol. 2 by Inariya Fusanosuke [manga, yaoi]


Deathless )

majestic, adj.
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Yes, I should be in bed...
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Cyoot Kitteh of teh Day: Tea Time!
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funny pictures - Cyoot Kitteh of teh Day: Tea Time!

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Animal Capshunz: I Thought We Couldn’t Do This
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Funny Animal Captions - Animal Capshunz: I Thought We Couldn't Do This

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Mountain Bluebird, Bodie, California

Double Rainbow Panorama Over Amersfoort, The Netherlands
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http://epod.usra.edu/blog/2012/06/double-rainbow-panorama-over-amersfoort-the-netherlands.html

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Photographer
: Jurgen de Boer; Jurgen's Web site
Summary Author: Jurgen de Boer; Jim Foster

This double rainbow panorama was captured over Amersfoort, the Netherlands following a hail-producing afternoon thunderstorm. Clearly visible here are the primary and secondary rainbows, Alexander's dark band (the darkened area between the two bows) and supernumerary bows just beneath the top of the primary bow. Whereas refraction and reflection of light in raindrops explains how the primary and secondary bows are formed, the wave nature of light is needed to understand how light interacts with the tiny, nearly same-sized droplets that are responsible for the formation of supernumerary bows. Panorama taken on May 16, 2012.

Photo details: Camera Maker: Canon; Camera Model: Canon EOS 60D; Lens: EF28-70mm f/2.8L USM; Focal Length: 28mm; Aperture: f/8.0; Exposure Time: 0.0031 s (1/320); ISO equiv: 100; Exposure Bias: none; Metering Mode: Matrix; Exposure: program (Auto); White Balance: Auto; Flash Fired: No (enforced); Orientation: Normal; Color Space: sRGB; Software: Adobe Photoshop CS5 Windows.



Red-Orange isn't only for Bridges!
[info]theidolhands wrote in [info]birdlovers
This past memorial day weekend, we trekked down to Baker Beach to watch the fireworks display in honor of Golden Gate Bridge's 75th anniversary! To my surprise, the neighborhood one passes through contained a number of happy birds in the well-tended gardens.

In particular, Red-Breasted Robins were dominant! This was a delight because I could not recall the last time I'd seen them and it's been about two decades!

I also saw one hummingbird dart by and (thanks to this community) identified house-finches merrily chirping at one another. Naturally, the ever-present little blackbirds & sparrows were about too.

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Teen Wolf Multi-post
[info]iceynickles wrote in [info]ohnotheydidnt

Excerpt from the interview with Jeff Davis (Teen Wolf Showrunner)
"I’m trying to create a world where there’s no racism, there’s no sexism, there’s no homophobia. And I know it’s not real life, but I kinda don’t care. I’d like to create a world where none of that matters, you have the supernatural creatures for that to work as an analogy. In my mind if you can create a world like that on tv, maybe life starts to imitate it. That’s important to me. I think there are other shows that are better equipped to deal with serious topics. We’re doing werewolves in high school."


Interview with Colton Haynes where he talks about a few things including his nudity waiver and his brother who is married and has a husband )

Interviews with Tyler Posey, Dylan O'Brien!, and the new guy, Stephen Lunsford )

To top it off: Teen Wolf Season One Gag Reel )

Is it Sunday yet? I'm more than ready for the next season.

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Final Leg
[info]emo_snal

   I just wrote this entire thing and was on the second-to-last paragraph (had just written "and now for the most shocking coincidence") when LJ borked out and lost the whole thing (and apparently didn't autosave!), so this is take two. Anyway, this is the last leg of my recent journey. Previously I had left Ethiopia and, via Istanbul (where I found out my luggage was lost) headed for NYC.



Saturday, May 12th - At 8am on Sunday I found myself working aloft, 70 feet up the mast pictured above. While I was up there I reflected that at about the same time the previous morning I had been sipping Turkish coffee in Istanbul.
   I got in to NYC at JFK Saturday afternoon. My phone was dead and the recharger had been in my lost luggage, so I had to depend on skype on my computer and free wifi to do any communicating. This made life interesting and necessitated ordering more starbucks coffee than I'd have liked, esp since it really tasted inferior to the coffee I'd grown accustomed to in Ethiopia.
   Nevertheless several hours later I arrived in Bridgeport, Connecticut. In bridgeport Koriander has been working on the schooner Unicorn. The Sail Training Vessel Unicorn (STVU?) is a two masted schooner that has been laid up all winter and at this time was about a week from it's first sail of the year. As such they'd been working their buts off putting all the spars (yards, topmasts, gaffs and booms) and sails on.
   The STFU has an all-girl crew and takes only girls aboard in its "Sisters Under Sail" program. They wouldn't even let me spend the night on the boat! Though they'd let me help out with the uprig.



Sunday, May 13th - There were also a number of Xylocopa virginica --carpenter bees-- buzzing around the dock. I made friends with one:



Monday, May 14th - I'd been dreading my 30th birthday for years. I had also often wondered, especially during 2011 (the year of every plan falling through) what I'd be doing on my 30th birthday.
   As it turns out I had just returned from a second trip to Africa and was working on a tallship. The recent trips to Africa did a lot to help me feel better about it -- realizing that I have skills that can be of great benefit to humanity.

   Kori was able to get off work early at around 21:00 (yes that was early!), and we were able to find a restaurant that was still open and had some delicious cake. Kori gave me a pack of socks and a toothbrush for my birthday, and I've never been so happy to receive such mundane things (recall, my luggage was lost, I'd been wearing the same socks for three days)



Tuesday, May 15th - was another day on the boat. I had probably written something witty and interesting about this day the first time I wrote this entry.

Wednesday, May 16th - I had to flight to catch at 14:50 to head back home. Unfortunately, this was the day the Unicorn was finally getting off the dock for the first time and doing some maneuvers -- and it was doing this at the time I needed to leave the boat to go catch my train to NYC (around 09:20).
   I was able to leave a little later, the boat was still out maneuvering but I went ashore in the smallboat Pegasus. Incidentally that's exactly how my first journey to Africa began -- leaving the tallship Hawaiian Chieftain in the smallboat Pele to get ashore and catch a train.
   Fortunately I had planned an extra hour in my trip in case I missed any connections or encountered any delays. So this ate up that hour - I could still make it but without any delays.
   ...there were delays. I arrived at the airport around 14:30. Just in time to pay $150 to reschedule for the same flight the next day.

   Phone was still dead. Once again turned to skype to try to contact the world, and this time skype helped me not only in making the phone calls but I was able to log into the non-free airport wifi and have it billed through skype by the minute rather than pay the $7.99 one day fee the airport normally wants. Skype has really helped me a lot on this trip.
   My friend Pavel told me to come to his work downtown so I made my way there. He happens to be a programmer at a company that writes programs for cell phones -- so they had every imaginable recharger on hand! So I was finally able to recharge my phone.
   Pavel said I could crash at his place but Kori talked me into coming back up to Connecticut for the evening -- the first mate had even said I could sleep aboardship that night.


(The view as I departed the Unicorn)

Thursday, May 17th - Kori actually had the day off so she accompanied me into NYC as far as Jamaica Station, where I boarded the airport tram.
   As they scanned my ticket at the gate the machine beeped and printed out a new ticket stub -- this one listed my seat as 1D. Having accrued over 25,000 miles on Delta by now, I'd been upgraded to "silver medallion" frequent flyer status, with automatic upgrades to first class if available.
   In first class they were bringing us complimentary beer and wine before everyone was even seated. There was plenty of legroom, and the food actually tasted decent! I don't know where they found this relic of an airplane though -- it had no screens for watching movies!

   And now the most shocking coincidence: My flight home had a layover in Atlanta, and so had my flight out to Africa five weeks ago. I take my seat on the flight back to OC and who do I find in the seat next to me? The exact same guy who sat right beside me on the flight from OC to Atlanta five weeks ago!!!! Not in front of me or across the aisle but once again in the seat directly to my left. The same dude. Five weeks later! He'd been there and back twice in that time though.

   My parents met me at the airport in OC and we immediately proceeded across the street to an El Torito restaurant where I had a delicious burrito and a margarita.

   The End.


Epilogue A week later my luggage finally arrived. It appears to have been run over -- things that aren't even fragile, such as my stick of deoderant, were smashed. Of the four jars of honey given to me at the honey processing plant three of them were utterly obliterated. So the inside of my luggage had been soaking in hoeny filled with glass shards for a week. Surviving objects that were not shattered look like they have shrapnel pockmarks from the glass shards.

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Progress Report: 1 June 2012
[info]kateelliott

It seems I live by the principle of my eyes being bigger than my stomach.

In online terms that means I either make great plans for getting offline so I can work incessantly, and then check Twitter every 15 minutes

OR

conversely, determine to institute a fabulous program of blogging every day in a manner witty, wise, informative, profound, or edgy. You know. Like people do, who do that. Those people evidently will never include me in their number.

1) I’m still waiting to get my editorial comments on COLD STEEL from my editor, but this should not be construed in any way except that she has a number of manuscripts on her desk and has to tackle them in order of priority of publication schedule. I expect to hear from her soon.

2) Comments from beta readers are coming in, and I’m quite pleased on the whole. There are a couple of scenes I need to expand on, toward the end, but I knew that so this just confirms what I knew, and that is always pleasant. The reason the scenes got scanted is because by the time I was pushing to the finish of the novel I was so exhausted from the 14 months of wrestling with it and the sheer number of false starts and detours and wrong ways I had to correct that I just wanted to get to The End and then worry about revisions later. So that’s what I did.

3) When I mentioned to one of my beta readers that I felt bad that my readers were going to have to wait so long and patiently before it was published, she pointed out that I also have to wait: To talk about it. And since there are some scenes, and lines, and details, and Stuff that I really love, be assured that (for those of you looking forward to Cold Steel) that I am SUFFERING RIGHT ALONG WITH YOU. Kind of.

4) Next week I have a guest post going up on Monday (June 4) at A Dribble of Ink on diversity. I hope you’ll pop over and join the discussion, if one gets going.

AND

I am doing a Reddit AMA (Ask Me Anything) on Thursday June 7 at 8 pm CST (Central Standard Time) which is, uh, omg, like 3 pm my time. You know, I need to figure that out. ANYWAY, if you feel so inclined, please pop over. I’ll announce it again on Twitter and Facebook and here on Wednesday. By the way, Elizabeth Bear is doing an AMA on Tuesday June 5 at 7 pm CST. Also, my sons are concerned that because it is Reddit, no one will ask me any questions, so prove them wrong!

AND

I also answered seven questions about beta readers for Donna Hanson’s blog series on beta readers/reading. I don’t have a date for that going up yet, however.

Mirrored from I Make Up Worlds.


What Editors Have Bought Recently - Young Adult and Middle Grade
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http://pubrants.blogspot.com/2012/06/what-editors-have-bought-recently-young.html

STATUS: I have often said on this blog, Thank God It's Friday. Today, I really really mean it. What a crazy week. But all good stuff.

What’s playing on the XM or iPod right now? IF YOU DON'T KNOW ME BY NOW by Simply Red

So editors have been seeing a lot of crap but they've also been buying stuff. So instead of answering the question: What is an editor looking for? I thought I'd delve into what they've bought recently.

Here you go!

1) A young adult thriller
2) Gothic retelling of a classic--in this case, The Island of Dr. Moreau
3 young adult straight fantasy (as opposed to a bent one! *grin* In other words, a traditional not contemporary fantasy)
4) a time travel young adult novel
5) realistic contemporary young adult
6) animal character middle grade fantasy

Editors have not seen a lot in middle grade (it's the hardest content to find) but what they have seen included science fiction for the younger reader and Aliens in space or similar that target boy readers.

I'm out. Literally. Like I'm now going to sleep….
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Little Mix on Alan Carr Chatty Man
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perrie was so cute not understanding why the audience was laughing. can't wait to hear their single properly!

The post-surgery I may have no brain but I got me some ebooks roundup
[info]annathepiper

I’m not up for juggling my own words tonight, but I have been at least up for putting a dent into my backlogged email. Which of course means that I’ve got some book acquisitions to mention to y’all, since I’ve got a couple of pending receipts as well as notices from various crowdsourced projects I’ve been supporting!

Acquired via crowdfunding:

  • The Old Races Short Story Project, by C.E. Murphy. She’d been doing this as a non-Kickstarter crowdfund, and finally deployed epub and mobi versions to her backers. I’d already had the PDF but still haven’t read the pieces, and since the epub and mobi are new acquisitions, I’m counting this as a work obtained this year!
  • A Series of Ordinary Adventures, by Stevie Carroll. Digital copies of Kickstarter rewards from Candlemark & Gleam, and I should have a print copy of this on the way as well! Hurray for supporting the work of LJ friends!

Acquired from B&N:

  • Blackout, by Mira Grant. Picked up in both epub for the Nook AND in print, because when it comes to anything by Mira Grant, that is JUST HOW I ROLL.
  • The Old Races: Origins, again by C.E. Murphy. I think this in fact contains most of the same stories in the aforementioned Old Races Short Story project, but I’m buying it again just to show Kit some love. Because again: HOW I ROLL.

Last but not least, sent to Dara and me in print:

  • Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter, by Seth Grahame-Smith. I’d had half an eye on this one anyway just because we did just see the trailer for the forthcoming movie, which looks sublimely silly and very likely required viewing. Also, it was written by the same guy who did Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, which as y’all know, I did quite adore.

71 for the year!

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A Full Day's Work
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Today I was an extra again, for a TV show which films here, and maybe it even takes place here, but we sign very fierce forms about not disclosing anything, so I am not disclosing anything.

But I can talk in a very general way about the general experience, which was generally very fun, and also very exhausting. It was an 11.5 hour workday, all told; there was lots of activity at the beginning of it (including! I got to drive my car! on film!) and then lots of no-activity as the day wore on (for me and a few other people) (because yet other people were being lots more active). And since this is the way these things go (and they are very careful to explain to us that this is the way these things go, and we sign lots of fierce forms about that too), I was neither surprised nor disappointed, though I admit I did get a bit bored, especially after I finished the book I’d brought to read, and then could only keep checking my phone obsessively every two minutes, to see if anyone had emailed, or had played a scrabble move.

So that was basically today.

And yesterday I didn’t blog because it had gotten very late, and there wasn’t much to say that was new (I wrote, I did freelance work, I had a real estate meeting, blah blah), but I did do something new: which was I joined a different gym, so that [info]markferrari and I can belong to the same gym, and also it was lots cheaper, and has a larger and better pool–well, I think it’s better, it’s a saline pool. Which I looked up on the internet and it’s better than chlorine pools, but it also is a chlorine pool, so I am a bit unclear there. But I did go for a swim there, and though they keep it a tad warm for my liking, I did like all that space. And, of course, being lots cheaper doesn’t hurt either.

(And so when I went to cancel my current gym, they were all, Why are you leaving?, and I was all, Well, me and the boyfriend, same gym, and, you know, cheaper; and they were all, Well if we could match the rate?, and I was all, Yeah we talked about that when I wanted to sign him up here and you were all No Way, so here we are, and besides, saline pool; and they were all, Okay, well, yeah that is much better.)

Hmm. I feel like I’m rambling. Well I am tired. Did I mention eleven and a half hours work? We had lunch at 5pm. LUNCH. So maybe my caloric input is wonky too. Anyway, it’s Friday night, no one reads blogs on Friday nights anyway, right? :-)

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Трудности перевода
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Боже, какой бред. Украина, похоже, еще более провинциальна, чем Россия.


DW Fic: I Know the Pieces Fit ('Cause I Watched Them Fall Away)
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Court Street, Hoboken
[info]elainetyger wrote in [info]doorwindowwall
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Empire Magazine June 2012
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If you are looking for a copy of that June 2012 issue (and nearly died of sticker shock on eBay when you looked for it) be aware that your local Barnes and Noble likely has a stack of them. I was fortunate to be passing one (a rare event) and on impulse stopped in… Only $10!!!

Here are my mega-scans of the Clark Gregg photo shoot of WIN in a zip file - 4 pages, I'm not sure why the files sizes are so freakishly huge…? Bigger is better though. ;-)



If anyone ever sees these for sale as photos, or acquires a pdf of the magazine, PLEASE LET ME KNOW!

A Sagittarius Triplet
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Thoughts from BayCon: Polyamory, kink, community, divisiveness, and us vs. them
[info]tacit
I'm just back from BayCon, an annual science fiction convention in the San Francisco Bay Area. I quite like cons, and I've been going to cons of various flavors for more than two-thirds of my life, though this was a bit unusual in that it was a much more businesslike trip than most of the other cons I've attended. My expenses were paid by a group of folks who really wanted to see me present (which was awesome, and I'd like to say "thank you" to the con organizers for helping make that happen), and I spent three days on various panels talking about everything from polyamory to creativity.

There's quite a lot of interesting stuff that came up during those panels, some of which I'll no doubt be blogging about for the next several days or so. One thing in particular that I want to talk about, though, concerns the way those of us who are active in alternative lifestyles tend sometimes to create and foster--sometimes deliberately, sometimes unintentionally--an atmosphere of exclusion and ostracism that perpetuates the very same kinds of things that we claim to be working against.




One of the panels I was on concerned the topic of defining alternative relationships. Throughout the panel, several folks, both on the panel and in the audience, referred to people who are neither polyamorous nor into BDSM by terms like 'mundane' and 'muggle.'

And this is, I think, a huge problem for those of us in the kink and poly communities, or indeed in any sort of non-traditional social or relationship community.

Now, it seems to me that the problem with doing thins should be self-evident. It's self-congratulatory and divisive. It creates a completely unnecessary schism. It lumps everyone who isn't into whatever we're into in together as though they are all part of one great undifferentiated lump, which is just blindingly stupid; there are lots of folks who are neither kinky nor poly but who nevertheless are anything but normal. (I'll warrant that the life of folks like James Cameron, who designed and built the world's deepest-diving submersible because he wanted to check out what was going on at the bottom of the Marianas Trench, or Elon Musk, who designed and built the Falcon/Dragon successor to the Space Shuttle entirely privately on a shoestring budget because he thought that starting a private spacefaring company might be a cool thing to do for a living, are rather more interesting than the life of the average sci-fi fan even if those folks never once lift a flogger or date more than one person at the same time!) It does exactly what kinky and poly folks complain they don't want others to do to them--it judges other people based on stereotypes mostly ridiculous and assumptions mostly baseless.

And, all those things aside, it's simply bad policy.




I am a pragmatist. I tend to be less concerned with how people "should" behave and more concerned with what sorts of behaviors actually work.

And I think that every single derisive use of words like "mundane," "vanilla," "muggle," and so on actually ends up hurting the folks who use them.

The problem with describing people outside of one's community this way, aside from the fact that it's arrogant, dismissive, and inaccurate, is that it recognizes no distinctions between all those "normals." To someone who dismisses anyone not kinky or poly as a "mundane," a Unitarian who works for acceptance, sex-positivity, and compassion is no different from someone who belongs to Westboro Baptist Church, America's most well-known trolls.

And not only is that stupid, it's counterproductive. It alienates potential allies. It pre-emptively antagonizes folks who are simply neutral. It creates an us vs. them mindset which, at the end of the day, the "us" is almost certain to lose; when the "us" is a single-digit, or perhaps at the most optimistic a low double-digit, percentage of the size of the "them," fabricating an us vs. them mentality is simply bad tactics.

It is also exclusionary. A lot of folks who are poly, or kinky, or both, tend not to be part of the kink and poly communities, because this "us vs. them" mentality subconsciously shapes attitudes and opinions in ways that limit participation in the community.




When I lived in Tampa, I was for a number of years a regular host for PolyTampa, which appears to be as of this writing the longest-running polyamory support group in the country that's still ongoing.

Anyone who's been part of the community for any length of time has probably noticed that a disproportionate number of folks in the poly community tend to be geeky, middle-class, pagan, gamer...the stereotype of the "bi pagan poly gamer geek" is prevalent for a reason.

But it might not be the reason that people think.

I've watched a lot of folks talk about why the poly and kink scenes are so overwhelmingly gamer geek pagan bi (and, though it rarely gets mentioned, white and middle-class), and the explanations I hear usually fall along the lines of "Well, once you've started questioning monogamy and relationships, it follows naturally that you'd question other things, like religion and culture and stuff too. It's because we're so openminded and unconventional!"

Which, honestly, sounds like self-congratulatory horseshit to me.

There's another reason, though I think it's more subtle. It's something I think a lot of folks in the poly and kink communities are blind to; namely, that the communities are hostile to anyone who ISN'T cut from the bi pagan gamer geek cloth.

I don't think it's deliberate or malicious, mind you. (At least not usually; there are some exceptions, like one exceedingly unpleasant chap I encountered on Facebook recently who claims quite stridently that all monogamous relationships are abusive, anyone who prefers monogamy does so only because he wants to control his partners or he simply hasn't broken the brainwashing of conventional culture enough to look at relationships critically...but I digress. Not everyone in the community shares anything like those beliefs.)

During the course of the time I spent hosting PolyTampa, I noticed a fair number of people who would come to a single meeting, hang around for a bit, and then leave, never to be seen again. I also spoke to several folks who talked about being polyamorous but also about how they felt unwanted and unwelcome in the poly community, because they weren't pagan, New Age, geeky, gamers, or techies.

I don't think there's a lot of pagan New Age gaming geeks in the poly community because being poly means challenging accepted social norms about religion, hobbies, or attitudes. Quite the opposite; I think there are a lot of pagan New Age gaming geeks in the poly community because the poly community can be quite unfriendly to folks who aren't pagan New Age gaming geeks.




Now, let me be clear that (with very, very few exceptions) I don't believe it's intentional. Aside from that one unpleasant Facebook fellow, I've never encountered anyone in the poly community who would tell someone else "you're not welcome here."

However, as I've said before, any sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.

It doesn't matter that it's down to social incompetence more than maliciousness; the fact is, the poly and kink communities do tend to see the world in a polarizing, us vs. them light, and do often make themselves unfriendly to folks outside the pagan New Age gaming geek mold.

It's subtle--so subtle that the folks who do it are probably totally unaware that they're doing it. It happens through a process of normalization--of seeing everyone who doesn't fit the pagan New Age gaming geek mold as a "mundane," a "normal," a "muggle," part of an undifferentiated mass. It happens through tacit, rarely acknowledged expectations that if you're poly, of course that means you aren't Christian, you prefer video games to NASCAR, you have the free time and the money to meet and socialize at restaurants, you get the jargon and lingo of the geek crowd.

I've had folks come up and talk to me after poly meetings to say that they feel unwelcome because they are evangelical Christian, or because they'd rather go fishing than play World of Warcraft. Like I said, it's not intentional, it's subtle, but it shows in a thousand different ways. There are subtle little expectations, occasional barely-acknowledged disparaging remarks about all those other folks who, heh heh, just mindlessly cling to some mainstream religion instead of, you know, something more spiritually thoughtful like paganism, the offhand remarks about how the rest of the world is just stuck in the boring rut of vanilla sex... All of these things create an unmistakeable social subtext: this is who we are, and if you're not one of us, you're one of them. The Mundanes. The great boring unwashed mass of People who Just Don't Get It.

And we're cleverer than they are, oh yes. We appreciate diversity more than the mundanes do. We understand the value of being our own individual, something all those people don't. Because, you know, they're all the same. And they aren't as smart as we are, or as tolerant, or even able to challenge their own assumptions. You know, the way we can.

It seems that being subjected to unwarranted prejudice and unfounded assumptions tends to make one skilled at doing these very things to others.

During the panel, when a few of the panelists had derisively referred to non-alt people as "mundanes" and "normals" several times, I chipped in that I don't use that sort of language because I find it unnecessarily divisive and totally inaccurate. It creates a myth of "normalcy" that doesn't actually exist; the mundanes that the other panelists derided do not, in any real sense, actually exist.

After the panel, a woman approached me to say that she was Mormon and in a D/s relationship, and found the kink community to be quite hostile. The assumptions that came from her being Mormon rather than pagan--she must be politically conservative, she must be anti-gay, she must be a blind puppet of organized religion--were subtle but real to her. When people in the community assume a baseline of pagan New Age gaming geek and talk about "mundanes" and "muggles," she saw a rejection of her in that--or, perhaps, a rejection of a distorted funhouse mirror picture of her, as rife with unchallenged assumptions as any that poly or kinky people will ever be targeted with.

And that's a damn shame. We need to do better than that.
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Free Ficlet #5: Zhaan
[info]astrogirl2
This one is for [info]kernezelda, who suggested "It really was Zhaan's soul trapped in Stark's game," thus forcing me to re-watch "John Quixote" for the first time in ages. Gosh, what a sacrifice!

Title: One Real Thing
Fandom: Farscape
Rating/Warnings: G. Spoilers for "John Quixote."
Length: ~360 words
Notes: This will probably make no sense if you haven't seen "John Quixote." Not that "making sense" and "John Quixote" are phrases that really belong in the same sentence, anyway.

One Real Thing )

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